Back in November we completed the main part of 'Mr F's stable training (see posts back in November). My next task is to find a way of convincing 'Mr F' that being all on his own in the stable is safe too.
I have mentioned before the considerable size of his stable (15 x 15 feet). It allows for ample room to move around when he is stabled for a prolonged period of time. Yet it also allows room for acting very dramatically when things don't go as expected, if the routine gets changed. If 'Mr F' isn't content about something he'll let the world know, that's for sure. While most people nowadays experience him calm and friendly, his fiery side is always lurking in the background and is only too happy to show its face. It is a destructive side, in disregard of self preservation and if pushed too far I can see him having a go even at his human handler, he hasn't done this to me but we have been close a few times some time ago, when I didn't know better and nor did he. In fact it is more a case of I having hanged as a human. To stop living in the past and to stop fretting about the future. The past is just that, its no longer relevant it's gone. And I cannot possibly know even what happens in just 5 minutes. All I can do is guess. It's no use wasting energy on what was and what might be because I will miss all that is, NOW, this very moment.
Over the past weeks I have been spending at least an hour with 'Mr F' in the stable, without any other horses next to him. We do this several times per week and he is very slowly becoming more and more chilled about it. But I must not lure myself into a sense of false security; 'Mr F' has of course learnt that the other horses will come in at some point and he somewhat relies on this. He can also see the other horses in the field. Yet there will be a time very soon when the fields are being rotated and he may not be able to see any other horse from his stable. And I cannot stay with him 24/7.
I have mentioned before the considerable size of his stable (15 x 15 feet). It allows for ample room to move around when he is stabled for a prolonged period of time. Yet it also allows room for acting very dramatically when things don't go as expected, if the routine gets changed. If 'Mr F' isn't content about something he'll let the world know, that's for sure. While most people nowadays experience him calm and friendly, his fiery side is always lurking in the background and is only too happy to show its face. It is a destructive side, in disregard of self preservation and if pushed too far I can see him having a go even at his human handler, he hasn't done this to me but we have been close a few times some time ago, when I didn't know better and nor did he. In fact it is more a case of I having hanged as a human. To stop living in the past and to stop fretting about the future. The past is just that, its no longer relevant it's gone. And I cannot possibly know even what happens in just 5 minutes. All I can do is guess. It's no use wasting energy on what was and what might be because I will miss all that is, NOW, this very moment.
Over the past weeks I have been spending at least an hour with 'Mr F' in the stable, without any other horses next to him. We do this several times per week and he is very slowly becoming more and more chilled about it. But I must not lure myself into a sense of false security; 'Mr F' has of course learnt that the other horses will come in at some point and he somewhat relies on this. He can also see the other horses in the field. Yet there will be a time very soon when the fields are being rotated and he may not be able to see any other horse from his stable. And I cannot stay with him 24/7.
Just to point out: 'Mr F' is absolutely not bothered about leaving his horsey companions behind if I take him out. We can walk for miles and miles and he is no longer in the slightest bothered about being on his own (with me). But that was something I worked on too, for quite some time, at the very beginning. Whatever I do with a horse (I have had to partially look after other horses in the past) I let take as long as it takes. My main aim is for the horse to feel secure, to understand and for it to have the time it needs to understand what we want from it. If the horse feels secure, than it will be safe for me and any other parties nearby. Of course some horses can be forced to do things but from observation I have learnt that this just creates a pressure cooker, with the lid blowing any time. This way of treating a horse does not seem fruitful to me. I prefer for the horse to follow me because it wants to, because it feels safe around me, at its free will. Not at any moment do I see myself as 'above' the horse. The ideal is to reach a balance. All of life is about balance. Anything that is out of balance, stops functioning, doesn't produce results.
There is an interesting observation I have made several times over the past weeks: if I have been in the menage with 'Mr F' to do some leading / liberty exercises, he is extremely calm afterwards alone in his stable. He has a content expression in his eyes, as though he is pleased that he has done a good job, he's done what I have asked him to do. The stable is rest after work. On each of these occasions he remained calm inside the stable even with me going out of sight.
I tested this yesterday again with the same result, a calm 'Mr F'. He appears very pleased with himself when we come back from the menage. It's training for both of us, for me as I yet still learn to observe him and to concentrate on any of his movements and him doing just the same. Loads of little things like following at liberty, standing still and waiting, etc etc. 'Mr F' is an extremely fast learner but he is also very stubborn. He has to be 'wanting' to be with you, or else you may just as well try and work with a large stone.
'Mr F' patiently waiting in the menage - 'What are we doing next?'
I must never take his (or any other horses') willingness to be with me and kindness towards me for granted as it can change at any moment. It is a wonderful gift from the horse. Again and again I ask myself: why are they willing to be with us? Why do they seek our company?















































